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Posts for June, 2010

How to Thrive in Tough Economic Times

Friday, June 11th, 2010

What’s the solution to personal crisis during the recession?

     

     Nationwide; Job loss, divorce rate, foreclosure, catastrophic illnesses, climate disasters. These are all the heavy words that are drenching the airwaves and, at times, putting Americans into an even deeper depression. Many people are justifiably worried and have found themselves glued to media reports, desperate for the first sign of hope on the horizon. Dr. Toni Galardi, better recognized through her column and media appearances as the LifeQuake Doctor, has been advising her psychotherapy clients and audiences by the millions to reposition this crisis in their minds as an opportunity to recreate their lives and, as a result, become happier and more fulfilled.

    “My new book, The LifeQuake Phenomenon, is a means to navigate through this time of uncertainty. It is a comprehensive guide for recognizing the light while still in the tunnel,” says Dr. Galardi. “Historically, disasters and evolutionary change has led to the emergence of a more solid, functional new society. Currently the majority of the United States is in stage three of the seven stages of a LifeQuake – the crisis and upheaval stage. During stage three, the calling to wake up and let go of the former, no longer viable, habits and material things is underway. One must learn to adapt to change at an increasingly rapid rate.”

    Times of great economic transition have always been accompanied by addictions. The founding of AA took place during the Great Depression when alcoholism reached epidemic proportions. Now, the dawn of the Internet has set out a new slew of addictive habits in YouTube, MySpace and other mind-numbing and counter-productive distractions. These behaviors coupled with substance abuse, excessive cell phone usage, television and the adult industry are all through the roof as Americans use destructive coping mechanisms instead of exploring new, innovative opportunities to thrive.

    Dr. Galardi has employed her LifeQuake Model to issues ranging from spousal affairs to economic catastrophe to cancer diagnosis. Her creation of the LifeQuake Model recontextualizes any curve ball life may throw and provides a path of hope throughout the darkest of times. Most books that deal with coping with change after the crisis do not address or provide a technology for preparing for change so that you can actually avert catastrophe. What makes this change model unique is that it provide the tools for forecasting radical change and teaches the reader how to adapt to change through strengthening the body, mind, and spirit. Each stage of the model has techniques and health advice for how to become the most physically, emotionally, and mentally agile person possible.

    The LifeQuake Phenomenon offers not only an escort through troubled periods, but also inspirational examples to illustrate the effects. LifeQuake ambassadors like Deborah Merlin, who used her son’s unfortunate ADHD condition as a catalyst to explore natural medicine and ultimately write a book to aid other parents, is a prime example of finding one’s true calling. For Diane Miller, an abusive marriage became her wake up call and vocation of destiny when she decided to take charge and become an integral part of getting new legislation passed on domestic abuse laws in California. Martin Rutte, author of Chicken Soup for the Soul at Work, went through stage two of his LifeQuake when he realized he was bored and uninspired in his work. Due to a strong sense of inner self, he was able to create a foundation that allowed him to easily prepare for a new destiny. Ben Johnson, one of the human potential leaders interviewed for The Secret, had become uninspired in his work as a holistic physician and the diagnosis of ALS led him to develop The Healing Codes and, ultimately, recover from a fatal illness. All of these LifeQuake case studies are available for media appearances alongside Dr. Galardi to demonstrate her model.

    Let Dr. Galardi and the LifeQuake Model illustrate the power of using hard times to reinvent ourselves. She is available for media interviews and speaking opportunities. She is truly an ambassador of hope and exemplifies The LifeQuake Phenomenon at its highest manifestation.

    Dr. Galardi is a public speaker, advice columnist, and author of The LifeQuake Phenomenon: How to Thrive (not just survive) in Times of Personal and Global Upheaval . 

    *About The LifeQuake Phenomenon

    Just as the planet experiences an earthquake when pressure builds from the core, complete with widening fissures and cracking foundations, what creates this seismic pressure in our bodies and psyches is our resistance to confronting an antiquated life. This resistance is composed of layers of faulty, inherited programs based in the belief that change means loss. The LifeQuake Phenomenon is your guide as you navigate through these ‘tectonic plates’ toward your personal awakening- an awakening into the authentic you that can ’spin on the dime’ of rapid change.

    This book provides readers with the LifeQuake Questionnaire followed by the step-by-step body/mind/spirit information that accompanies all seven stages of the LifeQuake Model. Further, readers are given unique tools to help build a secure inner foundation for adapting to change moment to moment. An added bonus, Dr. Galardi provides references to a multitude of cutting edge resources and profiles twelve well – known LifeQuake pioneers who have successfully mastered this path of radical transition. The LifeQuake Phenomenon is the definitive guide for journeying through this uncharted, evolutionary territory of our personal and global LifeQuakes. For more information or to purchase The LifeQuake Phenomenon, visit www.LifeQuake.net.  

    Ask the LifeQuake Doctor – June issue

    Thursday, June 3rd, 2010

    http://www.visionmagazine.com/archives/1006/1006_Lifequake_Toni%20Galardi.html

    Ask the LifeQuake™ Doctor Dr. Toni Galardi

    toni galardi

    Dear Dr. Toni:
    I am working in Hollywood in a technical position that does not require a formal education. For many years, I only made $60,000 a year.  Due to a stroke of luck (which may be debatable) I was promoted to a director position with a production company and now earn over $300,000 a year. I know there are many people out there struggling so my problem may not seem very important but I don’t know where to turn.
    After I became a director I started using cocaine at parties, which eventually graduated to daily use. I was dating a really sweet girl and began cheating on her with a lot of different women. I worked with one of these women and when I tried to break it off with her she called my girlfriend, and now my girlfriend will have nothing whatsoever to do with me.  She has agreed to meet me for couples therapy but not to get back together. I’m not sure if that is the answer for us. I think we just need to put this behind us and move forward. I am not seeing any of the other women anymore. What do you think we should do, Dr. Toni?
    Bewildered in West Hollywood

    Dear Bewildered:
    I agree with you. I would highly suggest that you forget couples therapy too. What is called for, however, is not to expect her to simply move beyond your transgression because you say so. If you want to regain your girlfriend’s trust and use this crisis to grow into a more expanded self, I suggest you go into individual therapy and work on your self-esteem issues.  That you began acting out through sex and drugs when your income substantially increased is very telling.
    You didn’t disclose your personal family history but it might be useful to explore with a therapist the beliefs you carry about making a lot of money. It feels to me that you are self-sabotaging out of feelings of unworthiness. What was your mother and father’s beliefs about money and power? I would also suggest you go to either an AA or CA (Cocaine Anonymous) meeting. I pick up a lot of arrogance from your letter. One of the steps in a twelve-step program involves making amends. I would recommend you call every woman you had gratuitous sex with and apologize. Besides doing your own therapeutic work, humble yourself and agree to your girlfriend’s terms and attend couples counseling as well.
    Every “loss” has a gift for us if we choose to see it. Good luck with your journey to real esteem of self.

    Dear Dr. Toni:
    I am a stay-at-home mom and my husband has been laid off from work. He has been unable to get hired and he wants me to go back to work until he does. I was a teacher before we had children. I know I cannot make the kind of income that he was making and it seems silly to get a job teaching temporarily. He wants to give up our home, sell one of our cars, and live in an apartment until things turn around.  I do not think drastic downsizing is the answer. I am afraid we are going to end up stuck in a working class lifestyle with me as the only breadwinner.
    My husband and I are really fighting over this issue and I don’t know what to do.  I don’t want to go back to teaching but I don’t know what else I can do. I can’t afford therapy or career counseling so I am writing you. Can you help, Dr. Toni?
    Ruth A.

    Dear Ruth:
    You would be surprised at how many couples have had to do role reversal since the economy crashed. In my phone-coaching practice, I worked with a guy who lost his job in corporate America and then decided to develop an internet business finding rare parts for motorcycles and now has this niche business that is international. His wife is an accountant who works outside the home while he cares for their child and runs his home-based business.
    Perhaps there is some kind of teaching you can do that is not in a formal academic setting. There are all kinds of seminar businesses where they train you to teach their material in the corporate workplace. Or perhaps you can start your own business teaching stay-at-home moms something you have a passion for. As for downsizing, I would suggest that you streamline your lives and cut out all the extraneous activities or expenditures before doing something as radical as selling the house, unless you are about to be foreclosed on. Empower your husband right now. He most probably feels terrible about not being able to provide for his family preventing you from being there for your children but you never know what gift lies in you moving back into a career and him spending more time with the children as he job hunts. Perhaps he can assist you in developing a home-based business while he continues his job search. Start doing some research and get outside your box. Change is gain, my dear!
     
    To submit questions for Ask the LifeQuake™ Doctor, contact Dr. Toni Galardi through DrToni@LifeQuake.net (no period after the Dr). For those seeking phone coaching, Dr. Toni can be reached at 310-712-2600.